March 4th, 2014
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#76

Don’t live your life on a default setting. Everything is a choice. 

November 16th, 2013
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#75

Your own needs. 

If you wake up saying, “What is it I need today?” How radical is that compared to “what do I have to do today?“ You will always have something to do. But what if you actually say, “What do I need?” Maybe what you need is 30 minutes by yourself or a bath. But women don’t take that seriously. Women don’t say that should be a priority. It should be. 

October 28th, 2013
4020vision

#74

Time to explore the gaps. 

Pay attention to the gaps. There’s only so much time that you have. It’s hard to really fit everything in. You can’t. I have realized that sometimes there are periods you have to devote more to one area of your life than another – work, your partner, friends, self. When I start to feel a gap…when I don’t want to wake up in the morning or when I am not feeling good about myself…I move things around. You sacrifice some things but you gain because of knowledge in other areas. - 40-something, graphic designer

September 14th, 2013
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#73

Be gentle with yourself. 

In my 20s I felt like I had to figure it all out in advance. I wanted to plan out the timeline of my life, including who I would be with and what that relationship would look like. But now I know you can’t. 

March 21st, 2013
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#72

Just know that the pain of a breakup is finite.

Breakups are a hangover. They can be awful but they do go away. You think you will never drink again…but you do. And you love again.

March 3rd, 2013
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#71

A fair comparison.

We’re always comparing the worst of ourselves with the best of others. We compare our inner insecurities with the outside picture other people show to the world. 

February 19th, 2013
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#70

Take responsibility for the mistakes you make, recognize things that you don’t have  have control over and take pride in the things that you have done that are good.

February 9th, 2013
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#69

Eccentricity.

Your “you-ness” will make you so much more interesting than fitting in. Learn how unique you are. We don’t need anymore people fitting in in this world. 

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40:20 Vision shares the wisdom of 40-something women with 20-something women. The permanant home of 40:20 Vision will now be at www.4020vision.com.Please find me there. Here I will focus on my "Forty Godmother" Gifts for 20-somethings: what 40-somethings would give 20-somethings to make it through their 20s with and more confidence and fewer regrets.

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