Not everything you do in your twenties has to have gravity. You’re twenty. Go ahead. There’s a whole lot of future ahead of you. Don’t take yourselves too seriously.


Don’t make your ambitions small. Just ask for the world and see what comes your way. You don’t need to be modest in your desires.


Don’t live your life on a default setting. Everything is a choice. 


Your own needs. 

If you wake up saying, “What is it I need today?” How radical is that compared to “what do I have to do today?“ You will always have something to do. But what if you actually say, “What do I need?” Maybe what you need is 30 minutes by yourself or a bath. But women don’t take that seriously. Women don’t say that should be a priority. It should be. 


Time to explore the gaps. 

Pay attention to the gaps. There’s only so much time that you have. It’s hard to really fit everything in. You can’t. I have realized that sometimes there are periods you have to devote more to one area of your life than another – work, your partner, friends, self. When I start to feel a gap…when I don’t want to wake up in the morning or when I am not feeling good about myself…I move things around. You sacrifice some things but you gain because of knowledge in other areas. - 40-something, graphic designer


Be gentle with yourself. 

In my 20s I felt like I had to figure it all out in advance. I wanted to plan out the timeline of my life, including who I would be with and what that relationship would look like. But now I know you can’t. 



Just know that the pain of a breakup is finite.

Breakups are a hangover. They can be awful but they do go away. You think you will never drink again…but you do. And you love again.